Difficulties in raising teenagers. Psychological characteristics of children in adolescence What does a teenager look like at 15 years old?

Nowadays, teenagers of 14-15 years old usually choose and download books for themselves, but if it is customary in your family to consult about reading, here is a list of literature that contains a lot of unexpected things. The author, a literature teacher, works with some very reading children - some of it was compiled based on their advice, but for general development it will be useful in any case.

The problem of choosing books at 14-15 years old is connected, in my opinion, with two things. Firstly, with the internal state of an individual child (some grow quickly and have long been eager to read books as adults, while others have not yet grown out of childhood). Secondly, with the inevitable but painful transition from a complete ban on reading (watching) anything about “adult” love to the ability to read (watch) about it calmly, without “obsessing”, that is, in an adult way.

It is impossible to save children from this threshold. Keeping them in blinders until the birth of their own children is not very wise, to put it mildly. Just from 14 to 17 years old, you need to somehow be able to take teenagers across this reading line, and each child probably needs to pave some kind of their own path into the jungle of purely “adult” books, which have ceased to have anything in them for a hundred years now. there was no need to be shy.

When compiling conventional lists of books for teenagers 14-15 years old, I did not try to embrace the immensity. I asked my friends, added their opinion to my memories and tried to build some system, however, not very logical and academic. I had, strictly speaking, one criterion - how much these books were loved and “readable”.

No “rules” (if we read “this”, why don’t we read “that” and violate historical justice?) are not recognized here. If “that” is unreadable for a teenager, that means we don’t read it. At the age of 14-15, the task is still relevant not to scare away from reading, but, on the contrary, to instill in every possible way a desire for this activity. The list includes only truly beloved books that have been read several times - strange as it may seem in some cases.

And one more consideration. An adult philologist, compiling such a list, willy-nilly begins to look around in embarrassment: how can I mention a book that has long been considered rather mediocre, or even does not stand up to any artistic criticism? Am I spoiling the taste of the young reader?

This kind of prejudice was not taken into account in this list. The point, in my opinion, is that in childhood and adolescence you need to read a lot not for aesthetic pleasure, but for the sake of your horizons. I once read a very apt remark from S. Averintsev: if a person knows only his time, his narrowly modern range of concepts, he is a chronological provincial. And if he doesn’t know other countries and customs, he’s a geographical provincial (this is my extrapolation). And in order not to be a provincial, by the age of 17 you need to read a lot of all kinds of books - just about life, about the “life and customs” of different peoples and eras.

The books in this list are grouped rather conventionally, and the groups are arranged in order of increasing “maturity”. This way, in my opinion, it will be easier to choose. As I present the texts, I will occasionally allow myself some comments.

Still “children’s” books

A. Lindgren Super detective Kalle Blomkvist. Roni is the daughter of a robber. Brothers Lionheart. We are on the island of Saltkroka.

The last book is the most “adult” on the list, but, strictly speaking, all this should have been read by the age of 12-13. As, indeed, other books in this section. But if a teenager has lingered in childhood and has not yet read everything he should have, then these books will not irritate with their “smallness.” They are specifically for teenagers.

V. Krapivin Knee-deep in the grass. The shadow of the caravel. Squire Kashka. Sailor Wilson's white ball. Captain Rumba's briefcase.(And another fairy tale about a poplar shirt - I don’t remember the exact name.)

Krapivin wrote many books, and some may prefer his “mystic-fantasy” cycles. And I love most of his books where there is almost (or no) fantasy, but there are real memories of childhood. The story about Captain Rumba is funny and cheerful - artistically, without effort, and teenagers lack this like vitamins.

R. Bradbury Dandelion wine.

Just a story about how difficult it is to leave childhood - from the point of view of childhood, not youth.

Alan Marshall I can jump over puddles.

Everyone suddenly remembered her with love.

R. Kipling Pack from the hills. Awards and fairies.

The history of England would also be added to this, or just an encyclopedia where you can clarify who is who and what is where...

Cornelia Funke King of Thieves. Inkheart.

This is already an “arbitrary” part of the list. The fact is that every reader needs (except for masterpieces) a layer of average books - for a snack, for a break, just so as not to lift weights all the time. And also for a correct understanding of the scale. Those who have been fed only masterpieces since childhood do not know the value of books. When you constantly read texts written for children, you forget some, while others still stand out, even though they are not masterpieces. But you can probably replace them with something else, I just came across these.

Lloyd Alexander A series of novels about Taren (The Book of Three. The Black Cauldron. Taren the Wanderer, etc.).

History, geography, zoology and more

D. London Northern stories. Smoke Belew. Smoke and Baby.

D. Curwood Ramblers of the North(and so on - until you get tired of it).

Jules Verne Yes, everything that is being read, if not already read.

A. Conan Doyle The Lost World. Brigadier Gerard (and this is already history).

W. Scott Ivanhoe. Quentin Dorward.

G. Haggard Daughter of Montezuma. King Solomon's Mines.

R. Stevenson Kidnapped. Catriona. Saint-Yves (alas, not completed by the author).

R. Kipling Kim.

Boys love this very much, if they have the ability to read not the easiest book. You can slip it in with a brief comment: this is a story about how an English boy became a spy, and even in India. And he was raised by an old Indian yogi (“Oh my son, didn’t I tell you that it’s not good to cast magic?”).

A. Dumas Count of Monte Cristo.

By now it would be high time to read the Musketeer epic. And “Queen Margot”, probably, too. But you can’t help but read it.

S. Forester The Saga of Captain Hornblower(three books have been published in the “Historical Library for Youth”).

The book was written in the twentieth century: the story of an English sailor from midshipman to admiral during the Napoleonic wars. Meticulous, adventurous, reliable, very charming. The hero evokes great sympathy, remaining an ordinary, but very worthy person.

T. Heyerdahl Travel to Kon-Tiki. Aku-aku.

Vet's notes, etc.

The books are autobiographical, funny and curious, full of everyday details. For lovers of all kinds of living creatures this is a great consolation.

I. EfremovThe Journey of Baurjed. On the edge of the Ecumene. Stories.

For some reason, even historians don’t know these books now. And this is such a help both in the history of the ancient world (Egypt, Greece) and in geography (Africa, the Mediterranean). And the stories are rather “paleontological” - and also very interesting. This is early Efremov, there are no (or almost no) seductive ideas here - about yoga, the beauty of all kinds of bodies, etc., as in the later “The Razor's Edge” and “Thais of Athens”. And there is no politics, as in “The Hour of the Bull” (all this is hardly worth giving to children). But it may be interesting and harmless to read “The Andromeda Nebula” - it is, of course, a very outdated utopia, but it successfully eliminates ignorance in the field of astronomy. Efremov is generally good (in my opinion) precisely as a popularizer of science. He has a documentary story about paleontological excavations in Mongolia, “The Road of the Winds,” which is very interesting.

M. Zagoskin Yuri Miloslavsky. Stories.

And I don’t like “Roslavlev” at all.

A.K. Tolstoy "Prince Silver".

We’ve already read it, and no one particularly likes it - so, in moderation. And ghoul stories (“The Ghoul Family” especially) are tempting - but you probably need to read them for general development.

Books for girls

S. Bronte

E. Potter Pollyanna(and the second book is about how Pollyanna grows up, although, of course, this can be read by the age of 10).

D. Webbster Long-legged uncle. Dear enemy.

Charming, albeit simple books. And the rarest form is novels in letters, witty and quite action-packed.

A. Montgomery Anne Shirley from Green Gables.

Nabokov himself undertook to translate... But the book is weak. There is a wonderful Canadian TV movie. And a cool Japanese cartoon (they say) - but I haven’t seen it yet.

A. Egorushkina A real princess and a traveling bridge.

Fantasy, rather mediocre, and the sequels are completely weak. But girls 12-13 years old are absolutely delighted with her.

M. Stewart Nine carriages. Moonspinners (and other detectives).

And this reading is already for young ladies 14-16 years old. Also very beloved, educational and, it seems, harmless. English life after the war, Europe (Greece, France), marvelous landscapes and, of course, love. M. Stewart's detective stories are average, but good. Here is the story about Arthur and Merlin - a masterpiece, but about it in another section.

I. Ilf, E. Petrov The twelve Chairs. Golden calf.

L. Soloviev The Tale of Khoja Nasreddin.

The text is charming and mischievous. Perhaps the most suitable one to get used to adult conversations “about life” without unnecessary pain.

V. Lipatov Village detective. Gray mouse. The Tale of Director Pronchatov. Even before the war.

V. Astafiev Theft. Last bow.

“Theft” is a very scary story about an orphanage in the Arctic Circle, where the children of exiled and already dead parents survive - an antidote to Soviet utopias.

V. Bykov The dead don't hurt. Obelisk. His battalion.

E. Kazakevich Star.

And a very interesting book, “The House on the Square,” is about a Soviet commandant in an occupied German town, but this, of course, is socialist realism with all its slyness. I don’t know any more lyrical prose about war. Is it “Be healthy, schoolboy” by B. Okudzhava?

N. Dumbadze Me, grandma, Iliko and Illarion.(And the film is even better - it seems with Veriko Andzhaparidze). White flags(a relatively honest exposure of the Soviet system, which was entirely bribed).

Ch. Aitmatov

However, I don’t know... About the later Aitmatov I’ll certainly say “no,” but about this I also can’t say with confidence that it’s worth reading. I just know for sure that children should have some idea of life in Soviet times. It is wrong if there is simply a gap and emptiness left. Then it will be easy to fill it with all sorts of lies. On the other hand, we knew how to read Soviet books, putting lies out of brackets, but children no longer understand the conventions that were obvious to us.

Memories of upbringing

A. Herzen The past and thoughts (vols. 1-2).

As a child, I read with pleasure, precisely during these years.

E. Vodovozova The story of one childhood.

The book is unique: the memoirs of a graduate of the Smolny Institute who studied with Ushinsky himself. She writes both about Smolny and about her childhood on the estate very impartially (she is generally a “sixties person”), but intelligently, accurately, and reliably. I read it as a child (the edition was very shabby), but it was republished about five years ago.

V. Nabokov Other shores.

A. Tsvetaeva Memories.

K. Paustovsky A story about life.

A. Kuprin Junker. Cadets.

A. Makarenko Pedagogical poem.

F. Vigdorova The road to life. This is my home. Chernigovka.

This is the same Vigdorova who recorded the trial of Brodsky. And the books (this is a trilogy) were written about an orphanage created by Makarenko’s student back in the 30s. A lot of interesting details about life, schools and problems of that time. Very easy to read. The Soviet is noticeable, but the anti-Soviet is also noticeable.

A. Cronin Young years. Shannon's Path (continued).

And probably “Citadel”. “Young Years” is a very nice book, although all sorts of problems with faith arise there. The poor child grew up as an Irish Catholic surrounded by English Protestants and eventually became a positivist biologist.

A. Brushtein The road goes into the distance. At dawn. Spring.

The memoirs have a revolutionary accent, uniquely combined with the Jewish view of Russian-Lithuanian-Polish reality. And it is very interesting, informative and charming. I don’t know how it will be perceived by modern children, but the mass of realities of the early twentieth century is reflected so clearly in few places. Perhaps A. Tsvetaeva - but she rather emphasizes the exclusivity rather than the typicality of their way of life.

N. Rollechek Wooden rosary. Chosen Ones.

The books are rare and probably tempting. Memoirs of a girl given by her parents to be raised in an orphanage at a Catholic convent. The case takes place in Poland after its separation from Russia, but before the war. The life and customs of the shelter (and even the monastery) are quite unsightly; it seems that they are described truthfully, albeit impartially. But they show life from a side unknown to us.

N. Kalma Children of mustard paradise. Verney rooks. Bookstore on Place de l'Etoile.

What is called - under the asterisk. The author is a Soviet children's writer who specialized in describing the life of “your peers abroad.” It is very politicized, with class struggle, of course, strikes and demonstrations, but still, to some extent, the realities of a life completely unknown to us are faithfully depicted. For example, the election of a “president” in an American school or the life of a French orphanage during the war. Or the participation of very young teenagers in the French Resistance. It would be nice to read something more reliable - but for some reason there isn’t. Or I don't know. And these books are hardly easy to obtain anymore. But the author, for all his Soviet naivety, has some kind of unique charm, especially for teenagers. And I loved it, and just recently one of our children suddenly brought it to show me (“The Book Shop”) as something treasured and dear.

Currently, the average height for men is 178 cm, for women - 164. Girls grow up to 17 - 19 years old, boys - up to 19 - 22 years old. Quite intensive growth is observed at the beginning of puberty (this process lasts for girls from 10 to 16 years, for boys - from 11 to 17 years). Girls grow fastest between the ages of 10 and 12, and boys between 13 and 16 years of age.

Growth fluctuations are known to occur throughout the day. The greatest body length is recorded in the morning. In the evening, height may be 1 - 2 cm less.

The main factors influencing growth are proper nutrition (for growth you need nutrition), adherence to a sleep schedule (you need to sleep at night, in the dark, for at least 8 hours), exercise or sports (an inactive, stunted body - a stunted body).

IT IS IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER that:
1. During adolescence (from 11 to 16 years old), a growth spurt occurs. Those. one person may begin to grow at 11 years old, and by 13 years old grow to his final height, while another at 13-14 years old is just beginning to grow. Some grow slowly over several years, others grow in one summer. Girls begin to grow earlier than boys.
2. This growth spurt is caused by and directly depends on puberty.
3. Often during the growth process, the body does not have time to build muscle mass and gain weight. Or vice versa, first you gain weight, and then your height increases, your body becomes elongated. This is a normal condition and does not require immediate weight loss or weight gain.
4. Losing weight and starving in adolescence is very dangerous, since a growing body, especially the brain, needs resources for growth and development. And an underdeveloped brain is then more difficult to cure than an underdeveloped body.

FOR FAT AND THIN.
First of all: WEIGHT and VOLUME are not the same thing. Because MUSCLE WEIGH 4 TIMES MORE FAT with the same volume. In addition, muscles, like fats, there are several types (biology course, grades 8-9). Therefore, if your weight is normal or below normal, and your body looks fat, it’s because there’s a lot of fat and not enough muscle. It will take proper nutrition and physical effort to turn fat into muscle. The weight will not change, and the plumpness will disappear. The same applies to those whose weight is below normal, but their body looks normal, except that the muscles are not visible.
Also, if your weight is below normal and looks thin, this is also a lack of muscle mass. This often happens during periods of active growth, when the skeleton grows faster than the muscles. This is normal and will go away on its own if you eat well.
I would especially like to mention teenagers, boys and girls suffering from “potbellies”. The reason for the appearance of a “belly” is weakness of the peritoneal muscles and poor nutrition. As a result, physical exercise for the abdominal muscles and establishing a diet, eating nutritious and healthy foods, and eating small portions help.

Table of changes in height and weight of a child from 7 to 17 years old (Anthropometric (centile) tables)

In height and weight tables, the division of indicators into “low”, “medium” and “high” is very arbitrary.

Average height and weight should be within the green and blue values (25-75 centiles). This height corresponds to the average height of a person for the specified age. For those who have not yet mastered the concept of AVERAGE STATISTICAL, I tell you that to calculate average height, data on several million teenagers is taken and the average and other indicators are calculated.
Growth, the value of which is within the yellow value, is also normal, but indicates a tendency to advance (75-90 centiles) or lag (10 centiles) in growth, and may be due to both characteristics and a disease with hormonal imbalance (more often endocrinological or hereditary). In such cases, it is necessary to bring this to the attention of the pediatrician.
Growth, the value of which is in the red zone (97th centile) is outside the normal range. In this situation, it is necessary to consult with the appropriate specialists: pediatrician, therapist, endocrinologist, gastroenterologist, geneticist.

How to use the table?

Boys look for their parameters in the table "Boys' Height" and "Boys' Weight"
And girls - in the table "Height of girls" and "Weight of girls"
First, in the Height table, we find our age in the left column and in the found line we look for the height corresponding to our age.
If the cell is blue, the indicator is ideally average; if it is green, it is not ideal, but the growth rate is normal.
If the cell is yellow, it means “there is a tendency to advance or lag” and it would be good to consult an endocrinologist. If it’s red, you just need to go to an endocrinologist.
Next, in the Weights table, we find our age in the left column and in the found line we look for the weight corresponding to ours. If the cell is blue, the average indicator is ideal; if it is green, it is not ideal, but the weight indicator is normal.
If the cell is yellow, it means “there is a tendency to advance or lag” and it would be good to consult an endocrinologist. If it’s red, then you need to go to an endocrinologist.
NOT ALL. Now we need to see whether the height indicator corresponds to the weight indicator. And bring the weight into line.

As an example, let’s answer two of the most frequently asked questions:

1. "I'm 14 years old, my height is 151 cm, my weight is 42 kg. Is this normal? Seryozha."
In the table “Height: boys” we look for the line with age “14 years” and in this line we find a value that includes the indicator 151 cm. We see that the indicator falls into the yellow zone, which means growth is below normal.
Further in the table “Weight: boys” in the line corresponding to the age of 14 years we find a value that includes the indicator 42 kg. We see that the indicator is in the green zone, which means the weight is normal.
Now, please note that the height indicator (low) does not correspond to the weight indicator (average) - this means either the weight is more than necessary, or at the moment there is a growth spurt and height and weight simply did not have time to come into agreement. Moreover, the second conclusion is much more likely.

2. "Height 148, weight 41. 12 years old. Normal? Marina"
In the table “Height: girls” we look for the line with age “12 years” and in this line we find a value that includes the indicator 148 cm. We see that the indicator falls into the blue zone, which means growth is normal.
Further in the table “Weight: girls” in the line corresponding to the age of 12 years, we find a value that includes the indicator 41 kg. We see that the indicator is in the blue zone, which means the weight is normal.
Now pay attention that the height indicator corresponds to the weight indicator. Everything is just perfect.

Proper nutrition.

Proper nutrition is the basis for increasing height. What food promotes growth, what food stimulates growth?

Menu :
Breakfast- the main meal of the day. After sleep, the body is at its most stretched and relaxed, and it is very important to do a little exercise before breakfast. In the morning, the body best absorbs nutrients. That's what we need.

So, for breakfast, eat only grain products (cereals). This:

PORridge (buckwheat; oatmeal and rolled oatmeal; pearl barley; corn; millet; rice.) Better with milk. P.S. Porridges don't make you fat.
Omelette or boiled eggs are also acceptable for breakfast, but not every day.
Bread (whole grain).
Tea, cocoa, milk.

Unfortunately, dry crispy flakes, stars, rings, which need to be filled with milk, do not contain nutritional substances to increase growth. They do not stimulate growth in any way and can be added to your diet only for variety.

Dinner.
The daily diet should contain as much plant and protein foods as possible.

Vegetables and fruits (carrots; peas; beans; beans; nuts; dill; tarragon; savory; basil; marjoram; lettuce; spinach; parsley; celery; onions; rhubarb; corn; bananas; oranges; strawberries; cranberries; blueberries).
You need to eat at least a kilogram of vegetables and fruits per day.
Soups and broths (Soups and broths themselves do not stimulate your growth, but they activate the metabolism in the body, which is important. P.S. Do not add “broth cubes” to the soup, because they do not contain anything nutritious or useful.)
Meat (Pork, beef, veal, etc., preferably boiled. Once every 2 days)
Dairy products (kefir; cottage cheese; cream; milk; sour cream; cheese)
Liver, kidneys.
Fish (preferably boiled. 1 time every 2 days)
Poultry (Chicken, turkey. Do not eat the skin.)
Juice (carrot, orange) or compote.
Bread (whole grain).

Dinner.
You can't sleep hungry! - Remember this. If you want to increase your height, then you need to eat well an hour or two before bedtime. Here's what to eat in the evening:

Dairy products (kefir; cottage cheese with honey; cream; milk; sour cream; cheese)
Eggs (boiled). Every day before bed.
Fresh fruits and vegetables

In order for products to retain more active substances useful for increasing growth, they need to be fried less, but better boiled or steamed! If you have allergies, etc. for some products, you can choose alternatives.

The diet for the near future is ready.

And finally, a recipe for an effective drink to increase height:
To prepare it you will need 2 glasses (200 ml each) of milk (2.5-3.5%) and one fresh, raw egg (chicken or quail).
Take one egg for two glasses of milk and shake the resulting mixture well with a mixer or blender.
400-500 ml. Drink this cocktail 3 times a day. The results are excellent.

Proper nutrition will not increase height without physical exercise, as well as vice versa. This has been proven, this is a fact.

What slows down growth.

Now about that what slows down growth, and what to avoid.

1) Alcohol and smoking. Completely exclude!!! Even on holidays. Alcohol is the first thing that prevents you from growing up, just like smoking (hookah too). If you smoke or drink alcohol, quit this thankless task now.
2) Sweet carbonated drinks (in addition to the fact that they do not contain anything useful, they have added thirst enhancers).
3) Fast food, chips, crackers, etc. and so on. Impair liver function.
...And that's not all.

Tips on food for those who want to increase their height.

I'll make a few clarifications on nutrition. It's up to you to accept them or not. But to increase your height, some of the tips listed below must be followed.

1) Take the time to chew your food well.
You need to chew food slowly and thoroughly. In a quiet environment. Since by thoroughly chewing food: the gums are strengthened, the load on the heart is reduced, the proper amount of saliva and digestive juices are produced in the stomach, etc.

2) Have a good breakfast in the morning!
We are constantly told that we need a light breakfast in the morning - this is wrong. During breakfast, the stomach is more inclined to accept larger amounts of food than during the day. If, after sleep, you don’t feel like eating at all, there is bad breath and an unnatural-colored tongue, this only means one thing - you have digestive problems. Stop eating sandwiches for breakfast and start eating porridge before it’s too late. Also, in this case, I recommend switching to two meals a day. And also, make sure that eat more food during breakfast compared to other meals.

3) Eating should be regular. Don't skip meals.
At least twice a day and no more than four.
The stomach should rest. Therefore, at least four hours should pass between meals. This time is needed for your body to absorb all the nutrients from processed food and produce enough gastric juice to digest the next portion.

4) The diet should be varied.
For example, you can’t eat dumplings alone for the whole week. In general, try not to repeat the dish several days in a row.

5) Avoid: cookies, candy, chips, soda...
Anything that has little or no nutritional value.

6) Beware of salt consumption.
Constantly exceeding the daily norm (3 grams) of salt can lead to disruption of metabolic processes in the body. In addition, excess salt in the human diet depletes bone tissue. That is, sodium chloride accelerates the removal of calcium from your body. This is important to remember not only for those who want to grow up.

7) Eat more raw vegetables and drink plenty of fresh juices.
Vitamins are best preserved in this form.

8) Drink six to eight glasses (200 ml) of water and/or fruit and vegetable juice per day.
From juices, give preference: orange, carrot, tomato, grapefruit. Sugarless.

9) Drink milk.
Calcium is necessary for the formation of bone tissue and, accordingly, increased growth. Which is found precisely in milk.
What kind of milk should you drink?
Goat's milk is absorbed almost immediately after ingestion. This happens thanks to the correct proportions of proteins, fats and carbohydrates. You should not drink raw goat milk. Causative agents of all kinds of diseases are often found in it. It needs to be boiled. Cow's milk is not as easily digested as goat's milk, but it can also benefit you.

10) After each meal you should rest.
Do not start physical activity immediately after eating. Optimal time to rest after eating: 30-60 minutes.

11) Take vitamin supplements every day.
Vitamins and minerals are not always found in the food we eat. Therefore, it is very advisable to add vitamin-mineral complexes to your diet.

Vitamin and mineral complexes to increase height

Vitamin and mineral complexes are extremely important, because almost all people living in megacities have vitamin deficiencies. This happens because food grown on our “modern” soils is deprived of many microelements, and as a result, vitamins! Simply put, the foods you eat do not contain any beneficial substances to stimulate growth.

Don't be afraid, there is a way out! Vitamin and mineral complexes. A good alternative. There are a huge number of them, for different problems (and for increasing height too), but most of them have the same goal - to normalize the balance of vitamins and minerals in your body. I cannot say which vitamins will help stimulate growth specifically for you, because... all people are different. Below are several of the most popular, best, in my opinion, vitamin-mineral complexes today (the approximate cost is indicated in parentheses).
"Kalcemin Advance"
"Calcium Sandoz Forte"
"Berlamin Modular, Berlin-Chemie"
"Natekal D3"
"ELKAR d/int. reception 20%"
"Yodomarin 200, Berlin-Chemie"

These complexes have been proven and are very helpful in stimulating growth. I don’t recommend using them at the same time (have mercy on your liver), so there are two ways: either try all these drugs in turn, or go to the doctor and pick up a complex along with it. I repeat once again that people are different and what suits one may not suit another.

Preparations containing growth hormone.

Modern science gives the opportunity to grow up for those young people whose growth zones have not yet closed. Basically, methods of hormonal influence on the body, psychological suggestion, and nutrition are used. Instilling a growth mindset promotes the release of samatropin, a growth hormone, by the pituitary gland.

The use of hormonal drugs in combination with other measures can change the situation. However, parents don't always want their child to take hormones. In addition, with closed growth zones, when there is no source for bone tissue growth, the use of somatotropin is not only pointless, but can cause harm to the body.

Now available medications containing recombinant growth hormone allow you to gain 1-2 cm in height per year. However, they are effective in cases of congenital pathology of the pituitary gland and have a number of side effects. Their use can cause acromegaly (enlargement of the hands, ears, nose, etc.), and taking them after puberty (after 18-20 years) does not affect growth. Active growth stops after puberty.

How to sleep properly.

Proper, sound and healthy sleep is one of the key conditions for increasing height, because a person grows in his sleep. It is during deep sleep that the body most actively produces growth hormone, which makes you taller and stronger, lengthens and thickens your bones. Actually, the rules of healthy sleep will be discussed below.
1) You need to sleep in a room where it is dark, quiet and fresh. Most of us live in megacities, where there is a high noise level, where it is light even at night and the air cannot be called fresh. We are used to all this, but it still affects our sleep. Therefore, earplugs, air conditioning and thick fabric curtains are the first things you need to have for a sound sleep.

2) The sleeping area should be well ventilated. If there is no air conditioning, open the window. Don't be afraid to open the window even in winter. It is better to cover yourself with extra woolen blankets than to breathe stale air.

3) Hard bed will provide comfort to your spine. A bed that is too soft, on the contrary, will not allow you to get a good night's sleep. If your bed is too soft, you can put several sheets of plywood under the mattress.

4) Don't sleep on oversized pillows. Scientists advise sleep without a pillow. Since in this case there is no disruption of blood circulation in the spinal cord, and improved cerebral circulation normalizes intracranial pressure. To increase height and healthy sleep, it is better to sleep on your back, placing a pillow not under your head, but under your bent knees. This situation is not easy to get used to, but the benefits from it are much greater.

5) Nightwear and sheets should be nice and clean. Therefore, make sure that your bedding makes you happy. Sound, healthy sleep and a gray-dirty bed are incompatible concepts, scattered socks and a cozy atmosphere are also incompatible.

6) Try not to curl up into a ball while sleeping. Don't tuck your knees to your chest or your elbows to your knees. This makes it difficult for air to flow into the lungs. You need to sleep as straight as possible. Stretched out.

7) All the same scientists claim that adults For a person, six to eight hours of sleep is enough. However, some people need five hours of sleep per night, while others need ten hours of sleep. During growth or adolescence, the body requires more sleep. So:
At 1-10 years old, it is enough to sleep 10-15 hours;
At 11-15 years old, it is enough to sleep 9-11 hours;
At 16-25 years old, 7-9 hours of sleep is enough.

8) Drink a glass of water before bed. Drinking warm milk at night will help you fall asleep faster.

Important: DO NOT eat heavy food, smoked, fried, sweet, etc. before going to bed, or drink coffee, strong tea, highly carbonated drinks, etc. ! After such a meal, a person’s sleep will definitely not be healthy.

9) To fall asleep better you need Set a fixed bedtime. Time to wash, calm down, forget about all the problems and get ready to relax. To get into a calm state and calm down, complete the following task.

Relaxation and breathing.
Close your eyes and relax. Make every part of your body completely relaxed. From head to toe. Now a little breathing exercise:
- Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose (10 sec.);
- Hold your breath (3 sec);
- Exhale slowly and completely through your mouth while tightening your abdominal muscles (13 sec.).
Repeat if necessary.

The sound of pulsating blood also helps you relax and fall asleep. Start counting your pulse. This method is much more effective than mental arithmetic.

10) In conclusion, I would advise against staying up all night. Shaolin monks, for example, who are distinguished by their health and strength, follow a strict schedule: 21.00 - go to bed, 7.00 - wake up. Not a minute later. They found that during this period the body is completely restored.

Height Increasing Techniques

Methods and exercises to increase height, tested and show amazing results! But not 100%. The results largely depend on the character of the person. Only purposeful and strong-willed people are able to become taller. Results will appear in a few months with daily(!) training.

Berg's technique.

It has always been believed, and scientists never tired of repeating this, that a person’s height can only be increased up to 20 years. Recently, this fact has been called into question. This happened largely thanks to Dr. Alexander Berg. He proved that you can grow even after 25 and 30 years, because... Every person has reserves to increase height by 6-8 cm. His technique for increasing height is aimed at awakening these reserves. Berg's technique is simple and unique. It has been experienced by many people who want to grow.

Description: All exercises must be repeated 15-20 times. Start classes 2 hours after eating. For full results, you will need a mat with spikes and exercise equipment.

Answers to popular questions using the Berg method.

When performing the Berg technique, is it worth seeing a doctor? (surgeon, endocrinologist)
» If the doctor is good (professional), then it won’t get any worse!
I would like to increase my height by at least 10 cm. When achieving this goal, can I stop all exercises or do I need to do it constantly? Will I have gains that won't subside?
» It depends on many factors. From you. In general, if a person can grow by 5 cm or more, then such growth is usually maintained (and further implementation of the technique will not be necessary). 2cm or less is unlikely.
In 3 days I became 2 cm taller, but then I stopped exercising and the 2 cm came back. Why?
» You need to borrow constantly (daily), because... the spine sags. No 10-15 workouts will increase your height; they will stretch the spine, but will not change the overall picture.
How to perform the exercises described in Berg's method? Do they all need to be performed at once, or step by step - first the first complex, after some time - the other?
» Start with one complex per day. After the first month, you can gradually increase the training duration and load.
Does the length of the body increase proportionally or only the spine?
» Differently. Depends on the characteristics of the person. At older ages (after 24 years), usually only the length of the intervertebral discs increases.
Can you tell me, after a set of these exercises, I also do strength exercises (push-ups, squats, dumbbells, etc.), will this negatively affect the result?
» It is believed that strength exercises inhibit bone growth in length and increase it in width. In any case, it is better not to perform exercises with a barbell or dumbbells, especially while standing.
I still don’t understand whether these exercises only straighten the spine or also promote bone growth?
» Exercises straighten the spine and stimulate bone growth.

Methodology of A. Tranquillitati.

Tranquillitati Alexandra Nikolaevna - Honored Doctor of the RSFSR, a recognized authority in the field of physical therapy. A. Tranquillitati’s technique, originally created for people who suffer from pain in the back, neck, and head, not only improves health, but also significantly increases growth. “This occurs due to an increase in the length of the disc between two vertebrae. Some exercises from the technique actually force the spine to take unnatural shapes. Therefore, I can admit that regular repetition of these exercises can increase the length of the spine or the entire body,” this is how Alexandra Nikolaevna Tranquillitati explained it.

Description: To begin with, I’ll say that complex simulators like Berg’s are really not needed here. You will need a gymnastic wall (several sticks attached at a distance of 8 - 10 cm) and a gymnastic board (with small supports to secure it to the gymnastic wall). The file with the methodology contains all the drawings of the necessary equipment.

Now some tips for those who want to increase their height using this method:
1) The best results will be when training is combined with regular basketball, swimming, tennis, volleyball, football and other sports games.
2) Go to a doctor, under whose supervision your exercises will be most successful. This point is not “for show”. A. Tranquillitati exercises can harm some people.
3) You need to train 1.5-2 hours before or after meals. And 1.5-2 hours before bedtime.
4) Gradually increase the load. Start with one workout a day, doing half or a third of all exercises. In the first 1.5-2 months, the doctor recommends setting the duration of classes to 10-15 minutes, then increasing the number of repetitions, and accordingly, the time to 50-60 minutes or more.
5) After training, within 3 minutes, you need to take a warm shower.
6)Only daily, hard training will bring you success.

Norbekov's technique.

Mirzakarim Sanakulovich Norbekov is a famous psychologist, academician, and author of an educational and health system. Norbekov's technique is a set of exercises to increase height by increasing cartilage between the vertebrae of the spine and by irritating the tubular bones of the legs.

According to the author of the technique M.S.Norbekova: “After 7-8 days of training, all patients note an increase in height from two to ten or more centimeters. Of course, a person himself does not grow from exercise. It’s just that a person acquires his natural shape and flexibility by restoring the elasticity of the intervertebral discs.”.

The only rule when performing the technique is regularity (at least once a day for 1 hour, normally - in the morning and evening for 45 minutes).

Some tips on the technique:

Don't get ahead of things. In the first three to four days, do not make final conclusions about yourself, your capabilities and this technique.
Do not talk or be distracted while doing the exercises.
Don't overexert yourself. A sign of malfunction is a feeling of heaviness in the head.
Do not doze while doing the exercises; drowsiness is unacceptable.
You can't exercise when you're tired and hungry.
Any excuses for your laziness and passivity are unacceptable.

Exercises by V. A. Lonsky.

Is it possible and how to become taller? Short stature is just a malfunction of the hormonal system and, most importantly, it can be changed for the better with the help of exercises for growth zones. This is what you and I will do with the help of exercises by Viktor Alekseevich Lonsky.

Description:
1) Warm-up run, 10 min.
2) Leg swings (10 times with each leg), bends (back and forth 10 times and left and right 8 times), splits (2 min.), circular movements of the arms, elbows and hands (10 times each). 25 minutes are allotted for the exercises.
3) Exercise on the bar, hang for 2 minutes (4 sets of 30 seconds, 2 of them with heavier weights (up to 10 kg). Additional weight is tied to the legs.)
4) Hang on the bar upside down for 1-2 minutes. The legs and feet are firmly secured with special straps. (4 sets of 20 seconds, 1 of them with a heavy weight (from 5 kg), press additional weight to the chest)
5) High jump. Push with all your might, i.e. jump as high as possible. (2 times 12 jumps on each leg, 3 times 12 jumps on two legs.) 10-15 minutes are allotted for the exercise.
6) Climbing up a hill (40 meters) or up and down the stairs. (5 times) When descending, relaxing.
7) 4 times a week, in the evening, you need to stretch yourself using rubber cords. (5-10 min.) Tie one cord to your legs, the second under your arms. The belts pull in opposite directions.
8) 4 times a week lesson in the pool (40 minutes each) swimming, stretch your arms and legs as much as possible by performing different stretches.
9) basketball or volleyball 3 times a week (30 minutes each). Play, trying to win all the top balls.
10) Per day, exercises for growth take 2 hours (an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening). You need to jump at least 100-200 times a day!

Swimming is an excellent stimulator of human growth.

Swimming improves breathing (good for the cardiovascular system), expands the chest and shoulders, and increases activity. When swimming, all the muscles of the body, one way or another, begin to work, stretching the spine and individual muscles of the body. What you need to increase your height.

Breaststroke is the best swimming style for increasing height. Breaststroke allows you to expand and enlarge your muscles and spine through sweeping movements of your arms and legs in the water. When swimming breaststroke, stretch your arms and legs as much as possible, then completely relax your muscles (you can just lie on the water).

Fourteen to sixteen years is the most unpredictable, rapid age, the time of active formation of the endocrine glands. If it didn’t work out before the age of 16, then with age it will be very difficult or almost impossible to change your eating habits. And this threatens not only excess weight, but also serious health problems. Due to development at this age, there is an increased need for nutrients.

Therefore, a poor, monotonous diet deprived of parental control can lead to the following problems:

Dizziness and flashing spots before the eyes.
Increased fatigue.
Decreased immunity.
Joint diseases.
Bone fragility.
Menstrual irregularities in girls.
Decreased performance and concentration.
Wasting or obesity.

Diet

Poor nutrition will sooner or later lead to health problems.

14–16 years are a time of active growth, which is accompanied by increased appetite. The task of parents is to explain to the teenager the harm of irregular eating dry food, to find an alternative to chips and buns, for example, dried fruits and nuts.

Meals should be four meals a day:

Breakfast – 25%;
Lunch – 35–40%,
Afternoon snack – 15%,
Dinner – 20–25% of daily nutrient requirements.

Breakfast should include a snack, main course and drink. Snacks can include vegetables or fruits, cheese or cottage cheese, and salads. Used as hot porridge, vegetable stew, meat, fish. A drink in the form of hot tea, compote, jelly, milk.

Breakfast options for teenagers:

Cottage cheese casserole with raisins or chocolate sauce.
Oatmeal porridge, milk with dried fruits or berries.
Millet milk porridge with banana, apple or raisins.
Scrambled eggs, omelet, with meat, green pot or vegetables.
Curd cheesecakes with sour cream or jam and yogurt.
Buckwheat milk porridge with vegetables.

The child often gets lunch at school. It should consist of soup, a second course (side dish with meat or fish), a third course may include a drink with cookies, yogurt, etc.
For an afternoon snack, you can give your child fruit, cottage cheese, and vegetable salad.
For dinner you can cook:

Meat cutlets with vegetables;
Cottage cheese casserole with apples;
Omelette with pasta;
Porridge with dried fruits;
Dumplings with jam or berries and fruits;
Fish soufflé with stewed carrots.

Before going to bed, as an option, you can offer a glass of kefir or milk.

The calorie content of food is calculated as follows: approximately 1.8 kcal should be consumed per 1 kg of body weight. This means that a teenager should eat approximately 3000, and at - 3500 kcal per day. Boys have a particularly high need for energy during this period, and it is not uncommon for those around them to be amazed by their increased appetite.

Quality food composition

The qualitative composition of food is as follows: the ratio is , and – 1:1:4.

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The average protein requirement per 1 kg per day is 2–1.5 g, and 50% of it should be animal protein (beef and poultry, fish, dairy products). It has a primary role because it is a structural material for growth and the immune system, and is necessary for muscle strength. If there is a lack of protein in the body, the brain suffers, and the child gets tired faster and the immune system cannot cope with infections.

In addition to high levels of protein, dairy products are rich in calcium, and meat is the main source, while fish is rich in phosphorus and minerals.

On a note! Protein content per 100 g of product:
Meat – 25 g,
Hard cheese – 25 g,
Fish – 20 g,
Milk – 3 g,
Eggs – 12 g,
Nuts – 28 g,
Bread – 8 g,
Beans and peas – 5 g.

Fats

The daily requirement for fat is about 100 g. For a teenager, the role of fat is to synthesize sex and other steroid hormones. More useful are butter and sour cream. Vegetable fats are useful due to the content of polyunsaturated fatty acids, and animal fats – due to fat-soluble and. 70% of incoming fats should be of vegetable origin and only 30% of animal origin.

On a note! Sources of vegetable fats:
Vegetable oils (99.9% fat),
Nuts (50–60%),
Oatmeal (7%) and buckwheat (3%) cereals.

Sources of animal fats:
Lard (90% fat),
Butter (75%),
Sour cream (about 30%),
Cheeses (15–30%).

Carbohydrates

The daily requirement for carbohydrates is 10–15 g per 1 kg of body weight (depending on physical activity, ambient temperature, etc.). The main function of carbohydrates is to provide the body's energy needs. Sources of healthy carbohydrates for a child are cereals, vegetables, bread, legumes, greens, fruits, berries, and not buns, cakes and sweets. Vegetables are also the main source of vitamins and minerals, and the dietary fiber they contain. You can read about how to choose fresh and and in our relevant articles.

Liquid

The body's need for water in children and adolescents is higher than in adults and amounts to 50 ml per 1 kg of body weight (in adults - 30–40 ml). It is useful to drink mineral water, teas, vegetable and fruit juices. Carbonated drinks are not able to quench thirst, they irritate the gastric mucosa, damage bones and teeth, and can cause.

Consumption standards for vitamins, macro- and microelements for a teenager

Fresh fruits and vegetables are an excellent source of vitamins, micro- and macroelements in the spring and summer.

A teenager must receive the required amount of macro- and microelements and vitamins from food. In the summer, it is enough to eat a variety of fresh vegetables and fruits (berries), and in the winter-spring period you can take a course of vitamin preparations. It is believed that by eating six fruits of different colors a day, we meet the need for all the necessary vitamins and minerals!

Calcium (1.2 g/day) and magnesium (300 mg/day) are needed for building bones and teeth; magnesium also relieves the excitability of the nervous system, helps cope with insomnia, and has a beneficial effect on the heart muscle.

Phosphorus (1.8 g/day) is necessary for metabolism, normal functioning of the nervous system and brain, muscles, liver and kidneys.

Iron (15–18 mg/day) is necessary for hematopoiesis and saturation of the body with oxygen.

Sodium (4 g/day), chlorine and potassium (4 g/day) normalize water-salt metabolism, acid-base balance, potassium removes excess water and sodium from the body.

Exception

Products that become the main cause of obesity in adolescents, i.e. they should be completely excluded from consumption:

Chips, soda, chocolate bars and candies.
Industrially produced sauces (ketchups, mayonnaise, adjika, etc.).
Processed meat products (sausage, ham, frankfurters).
Bakery products and fast food.
Fried food (especially cutlets and potatoes, fried pies).

You should eat mostly home-cooked food. Vegetable soups, cereal porridges (you shouldn’t get carried away with semolina and oatmeal), bread, seafood, dairy products (whole milk and kefir, cheese and cottage cheese), eggs, weak tea, it is important to stew and bake chicken, lean pork, beef. Potatoes can be consumed no more than twice a week, boiled or baked. Pasta can only be eaten from durum wheat. Do not overuse sweet and starchy foods.

In a teenage diet, you can arrange fasting days, on which you can eat kefir, buckwheat with water and fresh/baked fruits. But it is recommended to arrange such days a maximum of one day a week. Calorie content – up to 1000 per day. A more significant decrease in nutritional value and, especially, complete hunger on fasting days will cause various disorders in the teenager’s body, including overstimulation of the appetite center in the brain, which can lead to a breakdown: the child will eat everything around and eventually gain more than he lost before. .

Physical activity plays a significant role; doing something for two hours two to three times a week will be enough. Any sport is suitable, as long as it brings pleasure to the teenager (running or swimming, yoga or dancing, rollerblading or skating, skiing, wrestling and boxing, team sports, football, volleyball - the list goes on and on).

Diet menu for teenagers

An ideal breakfast option for teenagers is buckwheat porridge.

Calorie content: daily calorie intake should be reduced by no more than 20%. This means: girls - approximately 2500 calories per day, and boys - 3000. Moreover, if the child is actively involved in sports, we increase this calorie content by 20%.

Daily diet: 30% fat, 20% protein, 50% carbohydrates.

For breakfast you can serve:

croutons with hard cheese / 1 soft-boiled egg or omelette / cottage cheese casserole with fruit or rice / buckwheat porridge;
1 tomato or cucumber;
tea/milk/kefir.

For second breakfast:

low-fat yogurt;
fruit/vegetable

Lunch should consist of the first, second and third:

vegetable soup;
spaghetti/stewed vegetables/baked potatoes/porridge with meat;
vegetable salad (seasoned with vegetable oil);
juice/tea/compote.

Zinc is found in liver, beef, legumes, various nuts and seeds.

Vitamin A is rich in liver and p, pumpkin, apricots and carrots, viburnum, spinach, parsley, butter, cream.

It is necessary to exclude provoking foods: salty, fatty, smoked and fried, while eating more cereals, vegetables and dairy products.

Children are a mirror image of their parents, therefore, while teaching children healthy eating, you need to adhere to it yourself, thereby setting the right example for your child.

How should parents of a teenage son behave? My son is very passionate about playing games on the computer. He began to study worse and became aggressive. He completely ignores his parents.

The mother of a 15-year-old son is writing to you. I am in complete despair, what should we, parents, do, how should we behave? We live in a small provincial town. Just 2 years ago, my son was doing well at school. We did not demand great success from him, the main thing was that he should not be lazy and work to the best of his ability. He loves sports, rides a bike, skis in winter, during spring break we go to the mountains to ski, in summer we relax at the seaside, he loves to play basketball and volleyball. We didn't restrict him in any way. If you are on a field trip at school, please go and purchase something personal, please too. Our financial capabilities allow us to satisfy some whims. At work, he managed to get him a summer trip to a sanatorium on the seashore. Our changes for the worse began when my son became very interested in computer games. At first, he was fascinated by educational information and loved to watch scientific and educational films. I downloaded and watched feature films. That is, he had no restrictions on the computer; after 2-3 hours he could leave the computer and do something else. Recently, about 1.5 years ago, my son became interested in online games. He stopped doing his homework, became very aggressive, and it became impossible to tear him away from the computer. Our time restrictions on games did not produce results. Under the pretext that he needs to prepare information for school, prepare for the Unified State Exam, he sits down and plays these games. Our comments like “Vadim, it’s time to start studying”, “you’re ruining your eyesight”, which has already been shaken and he knows about it, he completely ignores, in response we hear insults, anger, that he hates us, “we’re getting into his personal life." I can’t ask him for any help, even when I need a man’s help to move heavy things, because there were no problems with this before. He seems to be offended by us, taking revenge on our parents, his younger sister. I can't figure out why. It’s very disappointing to hear such phrases as “it would be better if you weren’t here”, “you....”. It’s very difficult not to break down afterwards. I asked him what was going on, what were you missing. He doesn't make contact. There is only one answer from him: “What do you want, I live the way I want.” He can push me, my younger sister. The worst thing is that he doesn’t feel any guilt. I understand that I will not hear an apology, but if a person feels guilty, in the future he will try to prevent such situations from happening again. My son sees insults only in relation to himself. He often provokes situations. He loves to tease his 7-year-old sister, loves for her to serve him. If she resists, he threatens to break her toy. I understand that he will not agree to this in this case. But it’s difficult for her to figure out what could happen, because there were cases where her dolls and crafts were broken. Tears and screams begin in the house. My comments remain unheard. At school we often get 2 and even 1 in some subjects. And the reason for such grades is that sometimes he doesn’t concern himself with lessons at all, he’s all about games. Don't allow the computer? There was such a thing. Then I hear his complaint about us from the teachers. It was a compromise, we agreed that first we would do it for school, then we would play for a while. There is deception going on. While the parents are not looking, we sit and play for more than one hour. My husband's job involves a computer. And when he is asked to free the computer, it turns out that he did not do his schoolwork. Such deception and irresponsibility. He is not closed. He has friends, good boys. Good ones, I mean without bad habits. His class is friendly. Those. he is not alone in communication. How should we parents behave? After all, the main thing is that he is a person in a moral and ethical sense. Indifference, selfishness, cruelty - this is scary!

Answers from psychologists:

Hello Olga!

Growing up in a family is often accompanied by a relationship crisis. Judging by what you write, your son is going through a normal stage of growing up. And his behavior at this age is absolutely normal. And, no matter how strange it may sound, his behavior is even desirable at this stage of life.

Children are amenable to education (including control and guardianship) until adolescence. By the age of 15, a person’s character has already been formed. Life values are already laid down. And it is no longer possible to change a person’s behavior using educational techniques.

During this period, it is very important to change the nature of the relationship with your son: move from a Parent-Child relationship to an Adult-Adult relationship. Judging by the fact that your son has good friends and good relationships at school, then you raised him well and instilled the right values.

It is not easy to realize that the son is already an adult, and he does not need control and care. Your son communicates with friends as partners, and therefore their relationship is good. And you still see a child in him, so he rebels. That's why he spends all his time playing online games. In games he is independent, an adult, but when he returns to real life, here he is still a child and must obey the rules.

Imagine that your parents or your husband's parents will begin to completely control you, and set limits on the time you spend on the computer, or will monitor your every move at work, and will lecture you about what if you are not at work do this and that, then you will not achieve success, you will not get a promotion, etc. How will you react? It is unlikely that you will be happy. You yourself know what and when to do. Your son knows too. You taught him everything, everything you know.

If you continue to put pressure on him and control him, then you can forever break his independence and lose his trust in you. All he needs from you now is to show that you are ready to see him as an adult and are ready to respect his decisions. When the conflict in the family is resolved, when you find new forms of relationships, your son himself will begin to return to reality from online games. It is the lack of recognition of children as adults by parents that drives children onto the streets and into bad companies. Help your son assert himself in the family. This will be the best help.

If you doubt how your words will be perceived by your son, then immediately imagine that your parents are telling you this. And imagine how you will feel when you hear this.

You are wonderful parents and raised a good son, but it’s time to change!

Good luck to you!

Psychologist Strelkina Olga.

Problem area:

Children from 7 to 16

Comments

Answers from psychologists

I agree with psychologist Olga Strelkina, answering a question posted on December 21, 2011 at 12:53 by user Olga K, that by the age of 15 teenagers are almost adults, they already have certain values, they already have their own view of this world, they need some freedom and recognition of their achievements from adults. I would also like to add to this that computer games really capture and draw participants into their virtual world, sometimes so much that it can be very difficult to tear yourself away from them. In addition, a teenager, often claiming power in the form of freedom, cannot always bear responsibility for this freedom, and it rests with the parents, i.e. The result is that power goes to the teenager, and responsibility goes to the parents. Agree - this upsets the balance. For my part, I would suggest transferring power to the teenager to the extent that he is able to take responsibility. In this case, it is clear that the teenager cannot yet be responsible for his own health, i.e. he cannot stop his computer game, even though it damages his eyesight. And then it is the responsibility of the parents: they will pay for his treatment, they will take him to the doctor, etc. This means that in this place it is still too early to transfer power to the child, and the parent must decide how much time their son can study on the computer. Yes, when restricted or prohibited by adults, children always develop anger and aggression. But adults need to resist, withstand this aggression, not be offended, not angry, but accept: “yes, I see that you want to play, and you are angry that I am stopping you. But this is my responsibility for your health, you You can’t take care of your eyesight yourself, you can’t stop yourself, and I’ll do this while I do.” As soon as the child learns to independently take care of his vision, this part of responsibility (time limit) and, accordingly, power (choice of the duration of the game) can be transferred to him, but he will still have to control this for some time. On the one hand, teenagers, and even young children, as a rule, strive for power, for more freedom, but if they get too much of it, more than they can bear responsibility for it, then they experience anxiety and are deprived of protection too early and support from parents. After all, when a parent uses his power, he is responsible for the child and creates safe and comfortable conditions for his life and development. In this regard, when making a decision on this issue, it is necessary to maintain a balance of power and responsibility; you can openly discuss this with a teenager, weigh it together and come to certain conclusions.
Sincerely, psychologist Abdulina Natalya.

Natalya K. - 04/30/2012 - 17:39

Best regards, Natalya K.

Computer addiction of a 15 year old teenager

Natalya K. - 04/30/2012 - 17:40

Natalya, good afternoon! In our family we have the same problem as Olga, the author of the appeal. The only difference is that our son is studying well so far. And in everything else we are also concerned. We devote a lot of time to him, he is not deprived of attention. Freedom is provided in everything except the computer, because... virtual “doing nothing” makes a person a monster, dangerous to society. Initially, we tried not to limit the computer and the Internet, but nothing good ever came of it. Please tell me what methods and methods exist in the psychology of influencing such teenagers? Since the problem of computer addiction is no longer new, perhaps professional approaches to its treatment have already appeared. And where can you turn for qualified help?
Best regards, Natalya K.

My son is 15 years old, how should parents of a teenage son behave?

In your question I hear a desire to find quick and preferably simple solutions to this problem, like a recipe or an algorithm of action, I’m afraid that I will have to disappoint you. In my opinion, this is a rather difficult problem.
You can seek help for computer addiction at any psychological center, anti-addiction centers, psychologist, psychotherapist - a specialist who deals with this problem in your city.
I can say from myself that it would be good to understand what keeps your child in the game, in the computer, what gives him this, what problems he solves through the game, what he gets away from.
Computer and gaming addiction, like any addiction, is most likely a way of escaping reality. From what is happening now in life, unpleasant, unbearable, which is now impossible to cope with on your own, and maybe even to see it, understand and accept it. Then the adults themselves need to analyze what is happening in the family or in the life of the child, what is difficult for him to accept and what is still impossible to cope with on his own. Sometimes it seems to us that everything is fine in our children’s lives, and they have no reason to worry or worry about anything, but when we take a closer look, we can see what the problem is. It is important to discuss this with your children and start deciding. Perhaps this is some kind of crisis, when old values have already outlived their usefulness, and new ones have not yet been found. If at this moment the parents are nearby, help the teenager overcome the difficulties he has encountered, help him overcome the difficult stage of his life, then the need to hide from problems in the game will disappear by itself.
In the game, children feel strong, brave, and superheroes, which is not always possible in real life. They enthusiastically achieve various gaming successes, which they are proud of in front of their peers. It’s good if there is an opportunity to show the child that it is much more valuable to “pump up” - to develop oneself in real life, to direct the child’s passion to achieve real success. Often children who have experienced the pain of failure and defeat, shame for their imperfection in something, have a need to avoid such situations, and go into that fairy-tale world where there are several lives, where, if necessary, you can abandon the hero and exchange him for another. In this case, parents can help the child experience these feelings, discuss difficult situations, empathize with him, and grieve with him. Avoiding certain feelings leads to “getting stuck” in them, so the task of parents is to help children live through these feelings, and not get stuck in them.
A predisposition to addiction may be due to heredity and/or a special - dependent system of relationships in the family. Then it is important for adults to honestly analyze how relationships in the family are built, how emotionally dependent family members are on each other, what consequences this leads to and what can be done about it. It is very difficult to make changes in the system of family relationships. Sometimes a family comes to an unspoken agreement to accept a certain flaw in some family member (for example: some kind of addiction), which is a symptom, an indicator of family problems, than to change the entire system of family relationships. It is good if this choice is made consciously, with acceptance of responsibility for the possible consequences.
I don’t know which of the examples given may apply to your situation, I think that it is easier for you to see, feel and choose the path to overcome your problem that is most suitable for you. It is much easier to deal with such troubles with the help of specialists. I wish you good luck and all the best!
Best regards, Abdulina Natalya.

Refusal is provided in the following cases:

when a teenager over 15 years of age is in hospital;
if the period of illness of the children coincided with the time they were on paid leave;
if the child falls ill while on unpaid leave;
when the child’s illness falls during the period of maternity leave;
if the sick leave limit for child care is exceeded;
at the time the mother is on maternity leave until the age of one and a half years, with the exception of the situation when the mother works part-time.

It is necessary to note that a person on sick leave to care for a child cannot perform his work duties, since the calculation of temporary disability benefits and wages at the same time is impossible.

Sick leave for child care

Also, sick leave can be issued to another relative who is actually looking after the sick child. It is important from the point of view of the law that the person indicated on the sick leave corresponds to the person who is actually looking after the patient. So, if the ballot was issued to the mother, and, say, the grandfather is caring for her, then the accounting department cannot calculate both the salary and benefits for the parent in the reporting period.
If desired, family members can take paid sick leave one by one, coordinating its duration with legal requirements. If 2 or more children in a family fall ill at the same time, then sick leave can be issued for each of them - one per parent.

How to calculate and pay for sick leave to care for a child from 7 to 15 years old?

To prevent small children from causing big problems with paying for sick leave to care for them, you need to be aware of some features, which we will talk about. From this article you will learn how to pay for sick leave for child care and everything connected with it. Subscribe to the accounting channel in Yandex-Zen!

1 Rules for children's sick leave
2 Rules for issuing sick leave
3 For what period are ballots issued?
4 How to pay

Children's sick leave rules In 2018, the previous rules for paying sick leave for child care apply.

And the general procedure for issuing this document is regulated by order of the Ministry of Health and Social Development dated June 29, 2011 No. 624n. This order provides for the issuance of sick leave for child care to one of the family members or a guardian (trustee).

Sick leave for child care in 2018

The only opportunity for working parents to properly care for a sick child is to issue sick leave with the subsequent accrual of temporary disability benefits. Conditions for obtaining Issuance of sick leave for child care is permissible under the following circumstances:

When a child is treated on an outpatient basis at home, subject to timely visits to a medical facility.
When a child is in a hospital with a caring adult.

Sick leave in connection with a child’s illness can be granted not only to parents, but also to other family members who actually care for the sick child, for example, a grandmother, aunt or sister. The degree of relationship is noted in a special column of the disability certificate form itself.

Sick leave for child care in 2018

Earnings for the last 2 years - 948,000 rubles. There were no sick days during this period. To calculate the benefit amount, you must:

Calculate the average daily earnings:

948,000 / 730 = 1,298.63 rubles.

Calculate the amount of benefits for the first 10 days of the child’s illness, taking into account the percentage of work experience:

1,298.63 × 10 × 80% = RUB 10,398.04

Calculate payment for the last 5 days of sick leave based on ½ average earnings:

1,298.63 / 2 × 5 = 3,246.57 rubles. The total amount of the benefit will be 13,644.61 rubles. For an example of how to pay for sick leave for a child from 7 years old until he reaches the age of 15, if a quarantine is established in the kindergarten of the second child, see.

in the material “How sick leave is paid for child care.” Results Sick leave for child care is paid for from the Social Insurance Fund.

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Add to favoritesSend by email Sick leave for a child 15 years of age and younger is paid in full. In this article we will talk about how to correctly calculate and pay child care benefits for children from 7 to 15 years old. Who and for how long is entitled to receive sick leave to care for a child from 7 to 15 years old? If several children fall ill, how is sick leave issued for each child 7–15 years old? How to pay for sick leave to care for a child from 7 to 15 years old? Results Who and for how long is entitled to receive sick leave to care for a child from 7 to 15 years old? Sick leave to care for a child of 7 years until he reaches the age of 15 can be received by any of the parents, relatives or guardians caring for the sick person.

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The organization does not pay anything from its own funds, since this is not prescribed by law. The Social Insurance Fund transfers funds not to the employee’s account, but to the employer’s account, which then transfers them to the employee. Amounts The Federal Law “On Compulsory Social Insurance” No. 255-FZ implies the following amounts of payment when treating a child at home.
The first ten days in calendar terms are paid based on the citizen’s length of service (meaning the entire length of service, not with a specific employer):

with work experience of more than 8 years, a person can count on 100% compensation;
if the experience is less than 8 years, but more than 5, then payment is made at 80% of the amount;
for less than 5 years of work experience - 60% of wages.

The remaining days are paid at 50% of the average salary.

If several children fall ill, how is sick leave issued for each child 7–15 years old? If 2 children fall ill, 1 sick leave is issued simultaneously to care for a child 15 years of age or younger. If 3 or more children fall ill, additional disability certificates are issued. In this case, each document indicates:

each child's name;
periods of treatment;
age.

The period of validity of sick leave issued for 1 child in case of illness of the 2nd and subsequent ones is extended until the date of recovery of all children.

Ballots can be issued to several relatives in turn, subject to the following conditions: 1 sick leave per 1 caregiver.

Paid more if the child is 15 years old

A prerequisite is to receive sick leave on a working day - if a certificate of incapacity for work is issued by a medical institution on a weekend or holiday, this makes it invalid, and accordingly, benefits due to temporary disability will not be accrued. For how long, what does it depend on? The duration of sick leave largely depends on the age of the child. Depending on the age category of the sick person, sick leave for adults caring for them is provided under the following conditions: Additionally Parents who care for children under 7 years of age who attend preschool institutions and are in quarantine have the right to receive temporary disability benefits for the entire quarantine period.

Sick leave is issued for the entire period of illness of a child under seven years of age.

At the same time, in medical institutions, when filling out a certificate of incapacity for work, the degree of relationship and documents confirming this fact are not asked. Grandmothers, grandfathers, mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, uncles, aunts and other relatives can receive paid sick leave on completely legal grounds. Despite the fact that the degree of relationship in medical institutions is not requested, sick leave will be paid from the Social Insurance Fund only for those employees who cared for relatives.
This fact is verified at the interdepartmental level by sending relevant requests without the participation of the citizen. Certificates of incapacity for work are issued only in a clinic or similar medical institution. Emergency or emergency doctors do not have the right to issue sick leave. Conditions for issuing a certificate A certificate of incapacity for child care is issued after the end of treatment.