After the divorce, the wife does not give birth to a child. If the wife does not allow you to see the child after the divorce

Hello.
I would like to ask your advice in the following situation.
I am married, this is my husband’s second marriage. He got married for the first time at the age of 20, “on the fly.” The marriage broke up in 2007, leaving behind a daughter, now 10 years old. My husband and I also have a child. The husband wants to see his daughter, which he did, but starting sometime in the summer of 2010, his ex-wife persistently did not allow him to communicate with the child (initially, there seemed to be no problems). Her husband had to contact the guardianship authorities, where they explained to her that she had no right to prohibit the father from meeting his daughter. She (according to the employees) reacted inappropriately, shouted “why should I,” etc. Later, her grandmother called her husband and said that “Nastya now has a new husband and she doesn’t want you to come,” and that if the husband does not back down, she (the ex-wife) will demand alimony from him from the moment of divorce (before that, for everything her husband’s comments about financial assistance to her daughter, she replied that “we don’t need anything,” and when her husband donated money at school for the child’s needs, she created a scandal for the teachers, forbidding them to accept any money from her husband; in reality, she does not need money, since both she and her entire family are provided for by her parents, very wealthy people). The husband refused and said that he would insist on communicating with the child, and if necessary, then with the help of coercive measures. Then (and after consultation with a lawyer) her position changed - formally now she had nothing against her husband’s meetings with her daughter, but in fact, however, she prevented this in every way. When the husband presented a draft agreement on communication with the child, she refused to sign it because it allegedly violated her rights, and presented her own draft, which was obviously unenforceable for her husband (for example, there were requirements for monthly payment of funds for the maintenance of the child exceeding the monthly husband's earnings). The husband was forced to refuse and go to court. The trial took a long time, she went to the hospital, did not show up to psychologists, and delayed the consideration of the case in every possible way. The court practically forced her to sign a settlement agreement on her husband’s terms. All this time since the beginning of the conflict, the husband had not seen the child, the ex-wife simply did not pick up the phone when he tried to contact her on this issue (this despite the fact that formally she was allegedly not against their communication). At the same time, she personally did not explain her behavior to him in any way, avoided all conversations with him, hung up the phone as soon as she found out that it was he calling. And she brought the girl to the guardianship authorities, on her own initiative (without the demands of the employees) and the girl memorized how bad she felt with her dad.
After the settlement agreement between them came into force, the husband saw his daughter. The girl was very nervous and very hostile towards him (“you ate all your mother’s cookies.” “You dragged us through the courts” - despite the fact that she was brought to the guardianship authorities once, and not to court, it was her mother, “ “Mom doesn’t have any strength for you,” etc.) Then gradually the hostility disappeared, but with each meeting it always existed at the beginning, but was smoothed out in the process of communication. At the same time, from the words of his daughter, the husband learned that the ex-wife was in every possible way inciting the child against him. For example, he himself told his daughter that only good things should be said about parents, mom or dad, and when, in response to another stream of dirt, the girl repeated this phrase to her mother, she heard, “If there was something good in your dad, he would still lived with us" (this despite the fact that their marriage broke up due to her adultery, which began at the moment when her husband left for his father’s funeral in another city). She took away a gift from her husband to her daughter for her birthday (a book with mythological creatures) under the pretext that the sight of the creatures depicted there (hydras, gorgons, etc.) traumatizes the child’s psyche. She forbids the girl to talk to me, screamed at her, when the girl congratulated me on my birthday, she said: “Talk to everyone there (at our house), but don’t even say hello to her!” (despite the fact that, as already said, I had nothing to do with the dissolution of their marriage; it was explained to the girl that she could not talk to me, because I represented my husband’s interests in court, that is, I spoke against her, and she attacked me I was offended for this (literally “pissed off my mother in court”)). Systematically teaches the child to lie, to keep silent about something. For example, she took away from her a drawing that the girl had drawn for her father and forbade her to give it as a gift, as well as to draw anything in our house, with the caveat: “Just don’t tell dad, otherwise he’ll use it against us in court.” (it was told after the husband promised that he “would not use this against my mother in court”). Teaches the child what can and cannot be said, for example, stories, even mentions, about the mother’s new family, about her new husband, about the newborn brother are strictly prohibited. He lets his daughter read all the correspondence with her husband on financial matters, that is, things that are clearly not intended for the child, while teaching the child to say that it was the daughter who allegedly found the letters and read them. When the husband was sharply indignant at the last point (that the child was being drawn into a conflict, given adult letters to read and taught to lie), the ex-wife replied that the child had made it all up and that she had nothing to do with it. If any questions arise between her and her husband, she gives the phone to the child and encourages her to speak as if on her behalf, “Mom is asking where you and I will go for a walk.” To the husband’s words, “Let mom ask herself,” the girl replies, “Mom doesn’t want to.” talk to you." She wrote endless complaints of delusional content to her husband in guardianship, brought her daughter into guardianship to support these complaints (that he deliberately took the girl out into the rain to catch a cold) And so on, there are many such facts.
In general, the ex-wife created unbearable conditions for my husband to communicate with his daughter. You can’t envy the girl herself in such conditions either. The last time, when her husband came to congratulate her on her birthday, the child’s mother hid behind the door and listened to their every word, while the girl answered more and more in monosyllables, shuddered and looked at the door.
Soon after the start of the conflict, the girl developed night terrors; she began to be afraid to fall asleep in the dark, which had not happened before. The husband is also nervous; going on dates with his daughter is like going to war, with witnesses. The situation is unbearable for everyone.
What can you advise your husband in such a situation? It is obvious that the child’s mother is making every effort to ensure that the husband renounces his right to see his daughter and no longer appears in their house. (After the husband decided to stop visiting his daughter for a while, all complaints were addressed to him to various authorities stopped instantly). Should the husband take pity on the child, who is undoubtedly involved in the conflict, and retreat, not go there, as the ex-wife wants? The husband loves his daughter, he would like to communicate with her. But the conditions for this are unbearable. What is better for the girl herself - for dad to “disappear”, and even with a stream of slander against him like “dad abandoned you,” or for dad to come, but with scandals? How would you assess the psychological state of the child now, what does this situation threaten her with if the “war” continues? How can you support your husband in such a situation?

Divorce is a fairly multifaceted procedure that requires care and a serious approach. For example, if during the divorce proceedings the terms of communication between the child and the father were not agreed upon, then sooner or later the ex-wife may prohibit such communication altogether. There are many reasons for this behavior of the mother, but in most cases it is selfishness and jealousy.

The relationship between parents living separately and their child

This procedure is provided for by the Family Code of the Russian Federation.

• The parent who lives separately has the right to see the child and take part in his upbringing and education. The other parent should not interfere with communication unless it causes mental or physical harm to the child.
• The schedule for visits with the child can be drawn up in writing. If it is difficult for parents to come to an agreement, the dispute can be resolved through a court or a committee of trustees.
• If the court's requirements are not followed, action may be taken against the parent who fails to comply. If the parent living with the child is at fault, then, at the request of the second parent, the court can transfer custody to him (of course, in accordance with the wishes and interests of the child himself).
• A parent living separately has the right to receive information about the child from medical or educational institutions. He can be refused only if he poses a threat to the child, although such a refusal can be appealed in court.

Why can't you prohibit seeing your child?

If your ex does not allow you to communicate with your child, then you will learn all the news about him exclusively from her (or her parents) words. Moreover, the longer such confusion continues, the more the child will move away from you. Actually, the mother is well aware of this and, most likely, this is exactly what she is counting on.

Not all spouses manage to separate peacefully. And the worst thing is that in this situation children often suffer, becoming hostages of parental conflict. After a psychologically difficult divorce and property disputes, a mother’s ban on meeting her baby can become stressful for a loving father.

Many women use children to manipulate their ex-husband in order to obtain material benefits or to “annoy” their ex-husband. Men become enraged by the intrigues of their ex-wife, which supports the woman’s feeling that she is in complete control of the situation.

Note: Most often, the victims of women's intrigues to limit communication with a child are precisely those men who are not indifferent to the fate of their children.

Father's rights to a child before and after divorce

Important! No matter what arguments the ex-wife uses, the Russian Family Code clearly establishes the equality of parents’ rights to raise children. And these rights can only be limited by deprivation of court. Contrary to misconceptions, divorce is not a limitation of the father’s rights to the child.

According to the law, after a divorce, the father has equal rights and responsibilities with the mother. He has the right to take care of the baby, spend time with him, and participate in his upbringing. The father also has the right:

• See your children. Based on the provisions of Article 66 of the RF IC, neither the mother nor the father have the right to prevent the second parent from meeting the baby. If the parents cannot agree, the court will resolve the issue;
• Change the baby's last name. If, when registering a birth, a child received his mother’s surname, at his request it can be changed to his father’s;
• Learn about your children from their mother in a timely manner. He has the right to know whether the baby is healthy, where he lives, where he studies;
• Travel outside the Russian Federation with the child with the written consent of the mother. If the mother refuses to provide such permission without reason, the father may file a lawsuit.

If not divorced

Most citizens believe that mom will take better care of the children than dad. And most fathers are not ready to take responsibility for the upbringing and guardianship of a child. There are also fathers whose communication poses a threat to the mental and physical health of the baby.

But those fathers who want to take part in raising a child, are ready to spend their time and money on their children, but who are prevented from meeting the child by their mother, should know what rights the father has and how to defend them.

Parents can independently agree and even draw up a schedule for visiting the father. But situations often arise when the mother, in violation of the RF IC, prohibits the father from seeing the baby even if the spouses are not divorced, but are temporarily living separately. Mothers justify such restrictions by the fact that the father gives little money to support the baby or by the desire to find a new father for the child.

Such a restriction of the father’s rights is obviously illegal and violates not only the rights of the man, but also the rights of the child.

Where to contact

In such a situation, the father has the right to contact the guardianship authorities at the child’s place of registration or the court. The application to the guardianship authorities is drawn up in free form. It should contain the following information:

• Personal data (full name, residential address of spouses and child);
• Date of marriage registration (if marriage took place);
• Date of birth of the baby;
• Statement of factual circumstances. The fact that you do not live temporarily, support the children financially, the spouse prohibits meeting with the children;
• Please take measures to the mother, establish a schedule for visiting the children;
• Applicant's signature.

Important! When contacting the guardianship authorities, you should refer to the following articles of the RF IC: 61 (equal rights of parents in raising children), 66 (the right to participate in the raising of children of a parent living separately).

If the spouses did not file for divorce, but the father lives separately, and the mother restricts his rights to see the baby, the father has the right to apply to the court to protect his rights. To do this, a statement of claim is filed to determine the place of residence and the order of communication with the child. But in practice, the number of such claims filed within a marriage is minimal - all litigation begins between spouses during or after a divorce.

After divorce

The Russian Family Code establishes equal rights of parents in relation to children, regardless of whether they live together or are divorced. The parent (most often the father), who lives separately, has the same rights as the mother to communicate with the baby. And the second parent has no right to interfere with this.

You can solve the issue of meeting your baby with the help of:

• Agreements with ex-wife. You can try to reach your ex-wife through peaceful negotiations and conversations. After all, every mother wants happiness for her children and does not want to cause psychological trauma that remains for life. You can make a schedule of dates or enter into an agreement, clarifying all the details. Alternatively, dad can pick up the children from kindergarten or school, or take them to his place for weekends or holidays;
• If the ex-wife refuses to comply with the agreed upon schedule of visits or a court decision allowing the father to see the children, a state executor (bailiff) can help the father. Of course, selecting a child for communication with the help of a state executor is a dubious pleasure, but the baby will see that dad is ready to do anything for a date with him.

Where to contact

If the former spouses fail to reach an agreement, the father can protect his rights in court. To do this, you should go to court with a claim and provide evidence (witness testimony, video and audio recordings). By court decision, the mother will be obliged to provide the father with the opportunity to see the children.

Important! Children over ten years of age have the right to choose who they want to live with after their parents divorce. If the child expresses a desire to live with his father, the court will take his opinion into account when making a decision.

The procedure for protecting the interests of the father

Failed negotiations with the mother are grounds for filing a lawsuit. Filing a claim is carried out in accordance with Art. 131-132 Code of Civil Procedure of the Russian Federation.

The statement of claim must contain information about:

• Name and address of the court;
• Personal information and contacts of both parents;
• Personal data of children;
• Names and addresses of the guardianship authority;
• A factual statement of the circumstances of the case and evidence of the applicant’s attempts to negotiate with the other parent about visits with the children;
• The applicant’s requirements and the proposed procedure for communicating with the child;
• Signature, date, list of documents attached to the claim.

Important! A competent lawyer is the key to success. He will help draw up a claim, collect evidence, and will also be able to represent the interests of the applicant in court. At a minimum, seek a free consultation from our specialists directly on the website to receive prompt legal assistance. The sample claim below is provided for your reference. It is almost impossible to independently draw up a statement of claim and take into account all significant circumstances without legal experience.

The father must be mentally prepared for a long trial and listening to the mother's counter-arguments. After consideration, the court makes a decision in favor of the father or mother.

An approximate procedure for establishing a procedure for communicating with a child:

1. Negotiations with mother;
2. Contacting the guardianship authorities to record facts of violations on the part of the mother;
3. Preparation of claims and documents for court;
4. Participation in court hearings and obtaining a court decision;
5. Execution of a court decision.

Attention! If there is a court decision on the order of communication between the father and the children, but the mother continues to prevent such communication, compulsory measures to comply with the decision may be applied to her in accordance with Article 66 of the RF IC with the imposition of fines by bailiffs.

Such measures include:

• Establishing a deadline for the execution of a court decision;
• Imposition of penalties;
• Collection of enforcement fees.

Also, in the future, the father can raise the issue of the children living with him before the court and guardianship authorities.

Case Study

During the divorce, the couple decided that their three-year-old son would live with his mother. The father regularly pays child support as ordered by the court. She picks up her child from kindergarten on Friday, spends the weekend with him, and goes to the sea in the summer. However, three years later, the ex-wife decides to stop such communication, demanding a large amount from the father to support his son. It was not possible to come to an agreement with the mother.

The father filed a lawsuit to establish a schedule of visits with his son. The problem was that my father’s work involved business trips, and from time to time he was not home for several days. However, the court supported the father’s demands, and a decision was made to establish the days for the father to meet with his son.

As a protest, the mother completely stopped communication between her ex-husband and her son. The father was forced to re-write a statement to the court. With the help of a lawyer, it was possible to organize the forced execution of a court decision and bring the ex-wife to justice for obstructing the execution of the court decision.

Is it possible to take the child for myself?

Judicial practice shows that in most cases children remain to live with their mother. However, there is a category of parents whose living with them can pose a danger to the baby. Then the father has the right to sue his son or daughter. However, in order to deprive a former spouse of maternity rights, it will be necessary to prove that she:

• Does not raise the child, does not care for him;
• Uses violence against children, forces them to beg, teaches them to use alcohol or drugs;
• Has an alcohol or drug addiction;
• Has a mental disorder;
• She committed an offense against the life and health of children.

Attention! When making a decision to establish the place of residence of children, the court takes into account the financial situation of both the father and mother. But the mother’s lack of a permanent job or the fact that she lives with her parents and is graduating from a university is NOT the basis for establishing the place of residence of the children with the father.

Having decided to sue the children from the mother, the father needs to calculate his strength - whether he can pay enough attention to them, and not shift the care of the children to the grandparents. Will she be able to combine her work schedule with child care?

Legal assistance

If disagreements arise between former spouses, the legal process to establish a schedule for visits with children may drag on indefinitely. To clearly articulate his legal requirements, the father should contact a lawyer.

At the initial consultation, the lawyer will explain the procedure, draw up a list of necessary evidence, and develop a strategy for behavior in court. In the future, the lawyer will help to correctly fill out the statement of claim, will represent the interests of the applicant in the trial, and will also help monitor the execution of the court decision. Initially, we recommend contacting our lawyers online for a free consultation.

Remember that by protecting your rights, you are acting in the interests of children. Try to save them from parental quarrels and, if possible, protect them from negativity. And remember, the law protects the rights of all participants in family relationships. And the court will help resolve controversial issues.

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For some, a broken marriage is considered the opening of a new life, for others it is a tragedy, and for others, divorce causes a lot of problems.

Most often, men face problems after divorce proceedings. Ex-wives, according to statistics, do not feel sorry for their ex-spouses and try to cause them a lot of trouble, trying to prove that they were much better off in their marriage.

Often, in order to hurt their ex-husband, women manipulate the child, forbidding the father to see and communicate with him. Men who do not understand women’s intrigues react violently to this fact and become furious, which increases the woman’s sense of superiority.

The law is on the father's side

No matter how the ex-wife is against communication between father and child, the legislation of the Russian Federation assigns a number of rights to the father of the child, for example, the right to raise the child and care for the child’s health. In addition, the father has the right to:

1. Meetings with a child. The father has the opportunity to communicate with the child according to Art. 66 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation, the ex-wife has no right to interfere with meetings. If the dispute between the former spouses is not resolved voluntarily, then meetings are scheduled by court decision.
2. Changing the child's surname. If upon marriage the child was given the mother's surname, then at the child's request the surname can be changed to the father's surname.
3. Obtaining information about the child from his mother. The father can receive information about the health of his child, his place of residence, his dream of study, etc., from the child's mother.
4. Possibility of taking a child abroad. The father has the right to take the child abroad with the consent of the child's mother. If a dispute arises on this issue, the father may go to court in accordance with Art. 20 of the Federal Law.

My wife won't let me see my child

Contrary to a court decision and a voluntary agreement between the parties, the ex-wife can still interfere with communication between father and child for personal reasons.

Most often, these situations end in court proceedings, after which the father is assigned days to meet with the child.

In accordance with Art. 65 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation, the child’s parents must regulate all issues regarding the upbringing and education of the child by mutual consent and taking into account the child’s opinion.

If the child’s parents do not reach unity in resolving issues about the child, the father has the right to file a claim in court to remove the obstacle in communication with the child. If a peace agreement between the parents was still not reached and the father had to take extreme measures, then to go to court he will need statement of claim which should include:

1. The name and location of the district court where the appeal is sent.
2. Contact details of the child's father and mother.
3. Child's contact details.
4. Contact details of the guardianship and trusteeship authority.
5. The conditions upon which the father bases the claim and the supporting evidence.
6. Evidence showing the child's father's desire to reach an amicable agreement with the mother regarding time spent with the child.

After drawing up a statement of claim and initiating a case in court, the child’s father should get a lawyer to correctly represent his rights in court. The child's father should prepare for a long trial and hearing the wishes of the child's mother. The court, in accordance with the law, considers the declared case and makes a decision in favor of one of the parents.

If the court makes a decision in favor of the father, but the child’s mother also prevents communication and meetings, then, according to Art. 66 of the Family Code of the Russian Federation, measures provided for by law may be taken in relation to the mother of the child. The consequences of a mother’s ban on the child’s communication with the father after a court decision are:

1. Formation by the court of a period during which the mother is obliged to comply with the court decision.
2. Granting the father the rights to hand over the child for upbringing.

Legal assistance

In complex disputes that arise with your ex-wife, the issue of raising a child may remain unresolved. To more accurately formulate the father’s wishes and actions in accordance with the legislation of the Russian Federation, the child’s father must seek help from a qualified specialist - a lawyer.

The father of the child can turn to a lawyer for both advice and help. During the consultation, the lawyer will explain the procedure for resolving disputes with the ex-wife, list a list of documents for filing a claim in court, provide and explain a number of rights of the father to raise the child.

When providing assistance, the lawyer draws up and collects the necessary documents for the statement of claim, represents interests at the court hearing and monitors the parties' compliance with the court decision.

The cost of a lawyer’s services will depend on the provision of the service, for example:

1. Telephone consultations – up to 2000 rubles.
2. Consultations by e-mail or sending in a letter - up to 4,000 rubles.
3. Preparation of papers – up to 8,000 rubles.
4. Representation in court in civil cases – up to 40,000 rubles.

Specific amounts for the provision of legal services will depend on the complexity of the case, the time of application and the conditions under which the child’s father goes to court.

Child's property

The child has the right to use individual things. In addition, both parents are required to provide funds for the child’s livelihood.

A child who has not reached the age of majority has the right of ownership to all income and property received by him, without exception. All funds received by the child, for example, alimony, benefits, go to the disposal of the parent with whom the child lives.

The child's powers are protected by the Housing Code, in accordance with which the child has the right to his own share of the living space, even after the dissolution of the marriage between his parents.

Deprivation of the father's rights to the child

If you follow all the rules and regulations when going to court, you should not be confident in your own victory. There are legal proceedings in which the court makes a decision in favor of the mothers and thereby deprives the father of the rights to the child. Deprivation of a father's rights to a child occurs when:

1. Proof of lack of payment of alimony.
2. Proof of the father's absence in raising and caring for the child.
3. Confirmation of the above reasons by witnesses.

Cases from practice

In practice, there are many cases in which a decision between spouses was made both peacefully and by court decision. Most often, parents understand that divorce and related matters have a detrimental effect on the child and try to resolve all problems and issues among themselves without bringing the action to trial.

But there are parents who try to annoy each other at the expense of the child and resort to a court decision to tighten the rules for communication and raising a child for each other.

As an example from practical activities, the following case can be cited:

The wife insisted on divorce and submitted the appropriate documents; her husband agreed to the divorce and gave the go-ahead for his son to live with his mother and pay alimony.

Some time after the divorce, the ex-wife considered the rules of the contract and the demands of the child’s father to be excessive and put a ban on communication between the father and the child.

The child's father went to court to establish a solution to this dispute, but the only aggravating factor for him was living hundreds of kilometers from his son and ex-wife.

In this trial, the court decided in favor of the father and set the days for him to meet with the child, but the ex-wife did not like this decision, and she decided to stop communication between the child and the father completely. Due to the circumstances, the child’s father was forced to go to court again in order to bring the child’s mother to justice for failure to comply with the court decision.

After the child's father contacted a lawyer, enforcement proceedings were organized, according to which the child's mother was held accountable for non-compliance with the court decision.

If the trial turns out positively in favor of the father, then the most important points for its execution should be communication and meetings with the child. This right must be implemented in a short time, since after a court decision in favor of the father, the child’s mother can turn the child against her ex-husband in order to overcome the child’s desire to see and maintain a relationship with the father, thereby causing rejection and hatred in the child.

The main rules for communicating with a child after a divorce

After the divorce process and the resolution of disputes about the upbringing of the child, communication between the father and the child should take place in the same form as before, before the divorce.

The father must show the child his desire to communicate and participate in his life, despite the events that happened in the relationship between the parents.

The child should not feel disadvantaged in any way or experience discomfort from the feeling that the parents are not together now.

The main goal of parents after a divorce is to maintain friendly relations for the upbringing and growth of the child. If the relationship has failed completely and its restoration is impossible, then it is also not worth influencing the child and turning him against the other parent, you just need to give the child a feeling of comfort and security, give the child confidence that his parents need him.

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Explanation on the topic in Nikita Petrov’s legal aid blog.

If a man is very attached to his child, then after a divorce such a man can be easily manipulated or simply mentally harassed out of a feeling of revenge or a desire to cause pain. Here are just a few phrases that an ex-husband may hear:

“You will never see your child again!”

“I will find a better father for the child than you! And he doesn’t need you anymore!”

“You’ll see, the child will forget you very quickly!”

There was a case when the ex-wife and mother-in-law determined the price of visits with a child - at least twenty thousand rubles a month and not a penny less. Otherwise, it’s a turn from the gate. And this despite the fact that the child’s father did not have a stable income during this period (which is why, in fact, he was not needed). But he loved the child and wanted to see him, and he was not going to refuse any help he could.

Sometimes the first negative emotions after a divorce are so strong that the woman does not want to let her see the child at all. Not for any money or gifts. She takes child support as a matter of course; it can be sent by mail without damaging the child’s psyche with its appearance.

This, by the way, is one of the arguments of such women why they do not want their child to meet with their ex-husband. Like, the sooner the child forgets you and gets used to the new father, the better for the child’s psyche.

The situation is even more unpleasant when a woman moves with her child to another city, away from her ex-husband. Then the possibility of a meeting becomes much more difficult.

What to do in this situation? Go to law? Contact the guardianship authorities? Well, let’s say, after a long debate (and any trial is a protracted matter), the unfortunate parent will be given time to meet with the child and the negligent mother will be formally obliged to give the child away for joint walks with the father.

But how can you come for the child if the woman is categorically against these visits? Each time, accompanied by bailiffs and police, almost breaking down the door to the apartment? This is stress for a child.

Plus, let's add to this that most of the time that the child will spend with his mother, he will be in every possible way set up against his father, both by the mother herself and her relatives. It would be very good if this were not so.

And, of course, the man himself will make a big mistake if, during the allotted visits with the child, he creates a negative image of the mother in him.

Fortunately, for many divorced parents, resentment and hatred fade over time, and they begin to think more or less sensibly. For example, there was such a case.

A married couple, Olya and Sergey, divorced. Olya filed for divorce because during one of the quarrels her husband raised his hand against her. And in general, she believed that Sergei earned little, helped little around the house, and devoted little time to the child.

Their son Misha remained after the divorce from Olya. She was very angry and offended and refused to allow Sergei to meet her son. However, she couldn’t find a new man, at least a permanent one, and it’s very difficult alone with a child.

If a child gets sick, you have to take sick leave, and employers really don’t like it when an employee is constantly absent. And, in general, what kind of personal life is there when a “tail” is always with you. Neither go on a date nor invite anyone over.

And consider all the expenses and worries associated with the child to be taken on alone. Alimony is alimony, but you also have to prepare food, feed, wash, queue at the clinic, etc.

Olya thought, thought and called Sergei: “Misha is your son too. Why did you forget about him? Take it for the weekend." Sergei became a Sunday dad. And then Olya said: “I can’t feed Misha alone. Let’s do it this way: he lives with me for a week, with you for a week.” It didn’t even stop her that Sergei was already dating another woman by that time.

What do you think is a way out if your ex-wife doesn’t allow you to see your child?